Thursday, November 5, 2015

November Plans Plus Other Thoughts

November plans:

I've agreed to blog for Fabric Mart for a little while (6 months I think??). This was a tough decision!! I've been contact by Wawak and Burda to become an affiliate but decided against it. I think this FM set up is a bit different and feels less forced. Probably because 85% of my fabric is from FM! My posts will generally go up the last week of the month.

*My plan for the first post is this Burda jacket.




I really like the lapels and stance on this one. And it's got princess seams, a CB seam and real welts! I will muslin it first! :)

I really like the skirt too, so we will see how that goes! I'm using a wool/poly tweed that was Sue's pick not too long ago and is currently on sale for 50% off; Here


*I also plan to sew something for the PR colorblocked contest that starts November 15.

*I'm totally going to finally sew the skirt from the 08/2015 Burda


*And I want(!) this top from Burda 10/2015. 


It's so awesome. Probably totally impractical :-) but so cute!


Ramblings:

* Do you get annoyed by bloggers who don't respond? I think it's fine when there's a lot of comments that are generally positive encouragement, not necessarily responding "thank you" to every one. But I mean a blogger who gets asked a question of clarification or their opinion on something related to the garment and then they don't reply. So you wait awhile (e.g. they've posted 2-3 more posts) and you go check. Nope. Nothing. But you see they responded to another person on something.  Maybe they just don't like me... :-p
 
"unfollow"! 

* Sunni at A Fashionable Stitch posted today how she got in deeper than she wanted sewing for a coworker. I'm (obviously) not criticizing her choice to say yes!! Just saying, I've gotten really good at saying no. Well, let's face it, I am just good at saying no to things I don't want to do! Let my family tell it, I am mean. What I know is that people will take and take and take if you let them. Often with no ill intent, I'm sure. And the giver feels burnt out--fast. I had this revelation just before my 30th birthday. And now, it's really, really easy to say, Hmm. No, I can't/don't want to/etc. If I'm feeling particularly nice I may actually give a reason!

My (close) younger cousin is getting married next summer. She asked me to make her veil. There are so many reasons to say no (which I did). Let us enumerate!

1) I don't enjoy sewing for others unless I decide to sew something for someone. E.g., asking me will zap my mojo. I had fun sewing the things I made my mom earlier this year and sewing my sister's dresses. But the minute I am asked to make xyz I don't want to do it. 

2) IT'S A VEIL! My mom made my veil. But I was one of the most low-maintenance brides ever. I honestly don't even know if it matched perfectly or if the trim matched perfectly because who cares? MY MAMA MADE MY VEIL! :)

3) IT'S A VEIL! No really, this needs to be continued. It's tulle. It should be good tulle. I don't even know where to get good tulle or how much good tulle costs! 

4) She wanted a cathedral length veil! Uhmm. 'nuff said.

5) She lives out of state. So fabric choices, length, trim, attachment piece, etc...All that would have to either a) be decided by the non-sewer or b) be decided by the sewer who is not the bride. No.Thank.You.

So, "Aww...no...I can't do that. There's too many possible pitfalls." was my response.

* Aside from the fabric for my Fabric Mart post this month, I haven't purchased fabric since the beginning of August. I've been sewing from stash for 3 whole months now! And a funny thing has happened...I just can't get myself to pull the trigger on any fabric. Oh, I open the Fabric Mart emails...I've added things to my cart a couple of times. But then I manage to just close out. Now I feel confident that I can make it through December! I will end up getting something from FM for my December project, but these cuts aren't going into stash which is the real "problem"! 

* Related to fabric budgeting...household budget has been tight. My daughter is really and truly a fantastic kid. Not that my son isn't but he's got 2 whole years to get to senior year! :-p
She works and would gladly fork over money for a lot of the expenses that are being incurred but I won't let her. I did tell her she has to have her own spending money for her band trip next month, so there's that :)

*Unrelated to budget I am tired and exhausted and stressed out and tired. And I need to figure it out because it is now manifesting as physical pain. Yay me. Sigh. 

*Related to my awesome girl, she has already received notification of her spot in the 2020 class of the University of Minnesota - Morris! YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And since they heavily recruited her, let's cross our fingers until January/February and hope for an amazing financial aid package! :-p

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  1. I feel the me way about blog comments. No, I don't expect bloggers to respond to 300 comments saying "well done!" but if there is a specific question related to the content then I feel a bit of a fool if I don't get a response.

    Regarding sewing for others....whenever people learn that I sew, the first thing out of their mouths is usually "can you make X for me?" or "you should sell your clothes!" My response is always, "you couldn't afford it!"

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  2. Congratulations on your Fabric Mart blogging! I love Fabric Mart & I love your blog, what a GREAT match!!!!!
    Saying "No" is hard and sometimes you have to be a little harsh or the other person just won't get it! I don't like to sew everything. My favorite is sewing clothes for "me"! Once in a while if I feel generous I'll sew for someone but only if it's something that interest me. I only sew about 10% of what I'm asked. Stick to your guns, you have a plate full right now is sounds like.
    Congratulations on great kids! I love hearing updates. Mine are almost the same ages and it's good to hear another Mom talk about her babies!!!!
    Best Wishes & Congratulations again!

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    1. Thanks!! I'm excited!

      Aww thanks Bonnie. Those kids warm my heart <3

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  3. Hello there, fellow new FM blogger! I'm doing the same thing...for the same reasons that you gave. My benchmark for freebies/special discounts is "Is it something that I'd likely buy anyway?", and as you know, I am also a fellow sucker for FM sales, so it seemed like a win-win situation. I'm looking forward to seeing your first project for them!

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    1. Yay!!!! So happy you're doing it too Michelle! :-D

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  4. Ooooh... yes to the blog comments thing! I rarely drop an actual question in my comments, but I hate feeling ignored. I'm sure you'll do great with the FM partnership, it seems like a natural fit! Oh, and super congrats on raising an awesome kid... fingers crossed for that scholarship money!

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  5. COngrats on your baby getting a notification for the Uni of MN!!!!!!! And how great you'll be fabric mart blogging, too. I've been asked by a few other entities to do stuff but it just felt weird.. same with me, I think like 85% of my stash is FM anyhow.

    I've been so behind on reading blogs, blogging and what not, I need to double check my own comments to make sure I'm not neglecting them!! Life gets wacky busy sometimes. I confess even my last FM make was done under time constraints... therefore the garment came out below my usual quality standards. Ugh!

    Can't wait to see your projects coming up :)

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  6. Congrats on being a new Fabric Mart blogger! Well done.

    I have absolutely no problem at all saying no. I say no to sewing for someone at least once a week. At least. Some weeks it's every day. I don't find it hard anymore at all. Practice.

    Yes, it bothers me when bloggers don't respond to a comment. It also bothers me when I never see them comment on blogs in their blogroll. There are several bloggers I no longer follow because of this. You will never be one of them, as you comment on everyone's blog. I often wonder how you manage to find the time.

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    1. Thank you Elle!

      Oh, I'm so good at no. Nope. No. Sorry, no. LOL!!!!

      It is frustrating. What is the purpose of being in a community, if you're not going to participate, right?!

      I do have epic commenting sessions :)

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  7. HUGE huge applause to you for saying NO! Just say no to drugs and selfless sewing!!!
    Sorry to hear about your physical pain. Sending you healing energy.

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    1. Thank you Kyle! :)

      Yes, say no to drugs and those other people's sewing projects! LOL!

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  8. congrats on the daughter's acceptance!!! YAY!!

    I wholeheartedly agree with your points on why saying no is the right thing to do. Mojo zapper instantly!

    Budgeting is no fun. Being a grown up is no fun!! We have been super tight here lately too, and with Xmas coming up.... my only new fabric was with my Fabricmart gift certificate from the challenge. LOL. But I sure spent that wisely!!

    Speaking of, I'm excited to see your posts on FM. You always have such great details and fun things to say.

    I do get sad when a blogger doesn't respond to my comment if I've directly asked a question. However, I sometimes am too ill/tired/busy to reply to my comments until a few weeks have past so maybe they just were not able to reply right away? *shrug*

    That burda top is fun! It would look great on you.

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    1. Thanks Kristin!

      I'm going to abdicate adulthood. Is that a thing???

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  9. I so totally agree with you on the no commenters. I put a lot of effort into communicating and supporting new sewers, and tend to find (and not you, of course, or what I call my 12 or so "blog friends) that it is a one way trip. I'm starting to learn to pull back from this behavioujr - as you say, taking care of your own needs is so important, and that extends to blogging as well. I guess I am just not everyone's cup of tea, and that is okay by me, so I take it that when people don't bother, it's not personal, they just don't like what I blog about. Who cares?? So I am learning...and I don't have time for all the platforms, so I limit my activities. Love instagram though, quick for us sewers to say Hi.


    Wow, what a commitment to blog for FM. And with so much on your plate - no wonder you are stressed out. It will come out in all sorts of directions. Time to retreat into your cave for a weekend.

    So pleased about your daughter's news- a reflection on the effort you have made in bringing her up. Fingers crossed. Being financially stressed is always draining - thank goodness you have your machine.

    Congrats on the stashbusting - I'll join you soon.

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  10. P.S. - and yes, important to say no to other's sewing - this is time for you - you work hard enough as it is.

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    1. Thank you so much Sarah Liz!

      I'm hoping the FM deal isn't too bad. Though I know what pressure it can be "having" to post. We will see.

      I like Instagram for that reason too!! And you're right, you can't spread yourself too thin. Burn out plus it eats into sewing time!!

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  11. Congratulations to you and your daughter! My girls are also looking at the vrious U of M campuses over the next 3 years. That's 3 in 3 years, yes. I can't even think about that now. Back to sewing!

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  12. Congratulations to you and your daughter! My girls are also looking at the vrious U of M campuses over the next 3 years. That's 3 in 3 years, yes. I can't even think about that now. Back to sewing!

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    1. Oh my! Yes, best not to think about that yet! Haha! :) Thanks Kristen!!

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  13. Congrats to your daughter, Know you are so proud of her. Shows you did a good job with her..
    I agree, saying no is really important.. I am not good at that word. And I am burned out right now, because of it..ha
    Have a great evening and Happy sewing.

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  14. I'm going to check my blog now to make sure I've responded to your comments! I try to respond to all the comments, but sometimes they aren't made until a while after I've posted and I always forget to go back to it when I finally get the chance to sit down and do a blog post.
    Congrats on your FM affiliation and your daughter's uni - all great thing!

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    1. Ha! I can totally understand when people don't respond to every comment. But I think that questions should really be answered.

      Thanks so much Kristy!

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  15. Yes it is disappointing when bloggers don't reply, I keep going back to see if they replied. Annoying too.. Brill news for you with fabric mart.

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  16. Congratulations to you and your daughter! I pray for some great Financial aid too!

    You have some nice pics for your projects coming up and can't wait to see them completed!

    "No", is a very hard word for a lot of sewers. However, for me it was learned very quickly because of the problems it caused me not being able to say it! I agree with you 100%!

    Yes, it is extremely rude if you don't get a response to a question asked on another bloggers site! (Gosh, I sure hope it wasn't me, LOL!) that's why I have my comments emailed directly to my phone so that when someone comments, I can read it right away and respond! I do understand how frustrating that is as well, it's happened to me many times on couple of blogs. So I just stopped commenting on that person's blog at all.

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  17. Congratulations to your daughter! Way to go, girl! I hope that package is big and awesome! BTDT!

    I don't have a problem with bloggers not responding other than well known bloggers, with lots of monetization, almost never responding to their fangurls. My response is hit or miss. Sometimes I am at work and have a bit of time to respond to comments on my blog. Other times I am straight out. But what I can say is that every comment on my blog is appreciated, the good, the bad, and the ugly. It makes for lively conversation. The conversation does not have to be between just the blogger and her followers. It can be AMONG the followers themselves. Some bloggers may see themselves as more facilitators, opening conversations, not necessarily having a response to each and every comment. I have also seen negative feedback to bloggers who respond to each post with a "thank you" or whatever, being accused of jacking up their numbers to satisfy affiliates and get more opportunities to monetize. So it goes both ways, IMO.

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    1. Ah! Yes. Thank you for another perspective!!!

      I agree that I have often joined in with a discussion among commenters and those can be VERY good!

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  18. Congrats to your daughter! Yes, let's hope for an awesome financial aid package.

    I am totally with you on saying no to sewing for others. Most do not appreciate the time, effort and energy that goes into making something. I learned the hard way. A co-worker once asked me to make a skirt for her. When I asked her for some time for the fitting of the muslin and then some time to tweak the skirt in the fashion fabric, she balked and couldn't understand why this was needed. She felt like I was imposing on her time!

    I hope you feel better soon and am sending energizing vibes your way....

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    1. Thank you Tomasa!

      What to your coworker?!? Oh my gosh. See? That's how people can be!

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  19. Oh my your are just plain awesome! Congratulations on your FM blogging endeavor, it will be great.

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  20. Congrats to your daughter, and you!
    I don't understand why people who learn I can sew come and ask me if I can shorten their trousers and they expect me to do it for free. No way! My time is too precious to spend it shortening trousers for random people, I wouldn't do it even if they paid me.

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    1. Wouldn't do it if they paid me either!!!

      Thanks!! :)

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  21. congrats to you and your daughter. And I will look forward to seeing what you make, I have never ordered from Fabric Mart although tempted a few times.

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    1. Thanks Beth! Fabric Mart can be so awesome. I have had some fails, but nothing as bad as Fabric.com, and almost always due to me being excited over color/print and not reading the description.

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  22. Oh and I wanted to mention, I had such good success with a pants pattern, Finally! after seeing all your great versions of Vogue 9032 I gave it a try. Thank you for posting all the versions.

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    1. Thanks! Yes, I saw yours! I really do think Vogue got it right with that pattern for those of us who are a bit curvy!

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  23. Totally agreed on other people's requests being an instant inspiration killer. I say no hard and fast the first time anyone asks. It's so much easier for me to make it a rule and always say no. Sometimes people think they're complimenting you when they ask you to make them something. But sewing is my me-time, and I do not mess around with any attempts to hijack it. Doesn't mean people don't get surprise garments now and then!

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    1. Agreed! It's how I spend my downtime and while I may get inspired to sew something for someone else...just please don't ask!

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  24. Exciting that you're going to do FM posts, that jacket looks cute! So does the aline skirt, is it bias?

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    1. Thanks Molly! It *is* bias cut! Drapes so beautifully.

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  25. This is my first time reading your blog and really enjoyed your honesty and weakness! :-)

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  26. Not responding to a question, at all, is rude.

    Your daughter must be incredibly special - knowing your place is assured at Uni is wonderful - particularly if you know four years in advance. I'm guessing that is unusual?

    The FM gig sounds interesting and very apt for you. I'm looking forward to reading your posts for them. The Burda jacket is gorgeous, you'll do an awesome job.

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    1. Thanks Accordion! I agree that it can be so rude. I get time crunches and we are all really busy...but...Sigh :)

      Ohhh no, she graduates HS 2016 so she will (theoretically) graduate college 2020!

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  27. I got that same tweed to make a jacket for my daughter. I can't wait to see yours! My worst experience sewing for someone else was I made a Mother of the Bride dress for my sister-in-law who picked out everything- pattern, silk fabric, etc (that I paid for). She had some serious fit challenges, and I even made complete muslin to make sure I got the fit perfect. Then after it was done, she decided to wear a different dress from the department store- said she didn't like the color. So, lesson learned!
    I do sew for my daughters because it's part of our relationship- it's a way that they can share in my passion, and they will usually reciprocate in some way. But others get quoted my custom sewing rates, and when I tell them that I'm slow and expensive, that usually nips it in the bud.

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    1. Oh I can't wait to see YOURS!

      See! I think it's far more work/energy/time than I'm willing to commit to. And yes, I sew for my girl too but she's so appreciative no matter what it is <3

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  28. First - congratulations to your daughter!
    Re sewing for others - I think a blanket 'no' is good idea unless it is for someone close, or you approach it business-like.
    On a commercial blog I would definitely expect a response to a question, but on a non-commercial blog I would give the blogger some space. Although it is ideal to respond, for most of us blogging is a hobby and sometimes life gets busy and something has to go.
    I look forward to seeing your new plans made up - I had my eye on that Burda skirt too!

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    1. Thank you Sherry!

      You are so right about busy lives; I can agree on that!

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  29. I try to cut some folks slack because I know how non-sewing life gets in the way. It does for me for sure. I last wrote a post on 26 Oct and have yet to reply to any of the comments. I've been having some health issues and I'm stressed and tired and stressed some more. While it is nice to read a reply to a question that I asked, I can understand how replying takes a back seat. I've considered closing down my blog all together because I haven't been consistent lately.

    Yay on the stash sewing. I've been sewing from stash as well and haven't bought any fabric since October. Wait. That was just last month. Bwahahahaha. It was the beginning of October and for charity. That doesn't count, right?

    I've been asked to sew for others and the thought makes me queasy. Make you a coffee mug? Absolutely. Sew some garment? Hells no.



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    1. You're absolutely right L...for most of us we sew and blog as a hobby and it should never feel like a chore! I totally get that.

      That does NOT count as stash! :-p

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  30. Congrats to your daughter! You must be such a proud mama!

    I have sewn for others (non-family members). I think it's hard to sew for non-sewists. She showed me a picture on pinterest and bought the fabric already. However, the fabric wasn't anything like the picture in terms of the weight and texture. So unfortunately I had to ask her to go back to the fabric store to get the right kind of fabric. But she wasn't thrilled with the final result neither because the model in the picture had a completely different body type than her. So I totally understand why you wouldn't want to sew for others.

    I have been sewing from stash for a few years now. My stash is really that embarrassingly large! I only go to the fabric store to buy stuff that I absolute don't have, e.g. zippers, threads, elastics, etc. I find that the constraint of having to use my stash patterns and fabrics actually make me a bit more creative. I think sometimes it's easier to just buy new fabric to make your dream garment. But having to figure out how to use bits and pieces of stash fabric is a good challenge for my brain.

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    1. Thank you Nicky! I am very proud of her!

      SEE! That's the kind of thing that would drive me crazy!! I am enjoying the challenge of sewing near exclusively from stash. Including notions where I can!

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  31. Well congratulations on your FM blogging and to your daughter. I'm sorry to hear you're stressed and in pain. I hope that settles soon.
    My daughter asked me to make her wedding dress, veil and groom's waistcoat and I offered (!) to make bridesmaids' dresses (my other two daughters) and of course my MOB dress - that's the first to be dropped! I'm terrified but proud. She is so keen to have a dress made by me - like you with your veil, I guess. Otherwise, I can say no. Like you, I do enjoy offering to sew some things (family).
    I enjoy your blog.

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    1. Thank you Anne!

      And oh yes, I think those closest to us are a bit different. :) My daughter is intent on me making her prom dress. I'm setting aside time in February to muslin it (and decide *if* I can do it!). Fingers crossed!

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  32. I should have said, I agree with your thoughts about the rudeness of not responding to direct questions. I've had that happen and should unfollow. I have too many blogs on my reading list to keep up. On the other hand, I've had some great discussion and wonderful advice from bloggers - they are most definitely on my must read list! I'm not on Instagram, it seemed too much; I wonder if I should reconsider.

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    1. Oh my blog reading list is so long. So. So. Long!

      It took me quite awhile to warm up to Instagram but I like it. With the exception...several of my fave bloggers write blog posts less and less in favor of Instagram. Boo!

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  33. I feel the EXACT same way about sewing for other people . If it's MY idea, I'm really excited about it and it's done in no time! When someone ASKS me, I'm like -______-
    Even worse when I tell them they can get it cheaper at the store or from somewhere else and they're like "I would rather give you my money"... but i don't want it :-/ lol

    Congratulations on all of things going on with you and your family. I was wondering why you weren't on FM. You'd have plenty posts to give them lol

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    1. I DON'T WANT YOUR MONEY!!! lol!!!!

      Thanks Tasha! I know, right? I'm like, uhh...I'm sewing with FM fabrics ANYWAY! :)

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